Online dating dangers, single town

The Paradox of Online Dating Apps: It is Meant to Keep you Single

I came across an interesting article the other day about how online dating apps were really meant to keep you in “Single Town” and I think the article may of been on to something.

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Nowadays ALL online dating sites are making the claim that they are here to help you meet your soulmate; but their promise of “True Love” seem to continuously miss the mark.

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If you were to simply go on google, type in your favorite online dating app with the word “danger” behind it, and clicked on the news icon; there would be plenty of horror stories for you to read, I assure you.

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For example, I read that a lady met a guy on a certain online dating app. To be safe, she asked him to meet her at a restaurant with another couple she knew. After dinner, she decided she trusted him enough to drive her home on his motorcycle. While driving on the highway, she somehow fell off and was ran over approximately nine times. Her parents are now suing the man for the death of their daughter. It is still in litigation. I know that may sound like an extreme story, but believe it or not, there were a plethora more that also ended just as badly.

I won’t focus on that, the point of this post was to point out that some of the online dating apps have alluded “publicly” that their goal was for you to remain single, because it keeps them in business. I personally think it is awfully poor form to advertise that you “assist people in finding their soulmate” when ultimately the hidden agenda is to “promote singleness”.  There is just something wrong with that picture to me but in their defense, they do not put a weapon to your head and make you participate; they just play on your loneliness instead. *shrug* No difference, right?

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There is truly nothing wrong with being single if you want to be, but there is something a little sinister in online dating apps preying on lonely people, while also providing a place for convicted predators to meet and abuse people.

The articles I read were sad, so I wanted to bring awareness of this topic in order to encourage others to research these online dating apps more, and the crimes that surround them.

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Alternatives to using Online Dating Apps:

  1. Eventbrite – Eventbrite is a site that will show you great events in your area or in surrounding cities. You could type in things of interest, such as concerts, cooking classes, open mike, etc… and it will provide you with some dates of upcoming events. Try going out and meeting people that way, at least you may meet someone with a common interest.
  2. Adventure groups – There is a site called Meetup that allows you to find groups of people that share a common hobby. The groups consist of but are not limited to cycling, rock climbing, hiking, city tours, skiing, bookclub etc… Again, this would place you with a group of people that share a common interest, and even if you don’t meet your soulmate, you may meet a new friend.
  3. Adult Sports League – Join an adult sports league. If you like softball, kickball, golf, tennis or the like; join a league of people your age and start playing. This would be a great way to exercise and meet new people.
  4. Coffee Shop – If you like coffee or tea, why not visit a shop or two and see what happens? You could take some work or read a book, but this could be a great opportunity to run into someone new.
  5. Sports bars – If you like watching sports, sports bars are a great place to eat, hang with friends, have fun and possibly meet new people.
  6. Say Hi to 10 new people a week – I have read that a great way to meet new people is to set a goal to say hi to at least 10 new people a week. I personally have not tried it, but felt it was still worth mentioning.

Godspeed on your dating journey!

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Teacher and Parents: What to do when Instructional Time is lost.

Teachers and Parents: What to do when Instructional Time is lost.

Teachers: Create a plan to strategically cover material student are weak in (based on data) and/or material that is high priority that you have not had an opportunity to cover.

Parents: Provide support by making sure students are taking at least fifteen minutes a day or so, to read over review material.

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When time is loss, I suggest first, going to the test specs for the state course exams and identifying the highest priority, priority and low priority standards. Test specs typically list these by percentage.

English III Example:

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If this is your test specs, the highest priority would be Reading for Literature, priority would be Reading for Informational Text and Language would be a low priority. Next to the domain is the standards. If you have a short time to cover a lot of material, you would need to go to your testing bank, and select ALL of the questions from the “Standards” listed next to the domain/topic.

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The Review Assignment 

Using the Highest Priority, and Priority framework, go into your test bank, it will vary depending on where you live, and chose the specific standards that were represented, and create an assessment.

Save the assessment as a PDF or Word Document, then highlight the correct answers.

Next, provide instructions at the top of the sheet for students stating they have to complete two items per question in order to receive full credit for each question.

The Two Items

First, they had to identify and define any key term/person/event listed in the question.

Second, they needed to give a brief explanation on why the answer is correct, based on the concept of the question.

Example:

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**Again, this review could take up to three class days depending on the amount of questions you choose but you would be able to cover a lot of material while providing students with a study guide! 

It is a little rigorous but will allow students to read through and research the standards that have not covered. During the time in class, teacher would be free to catch up on things while being available for any questions students may have in case they come across something they don’t understand.

In conclusion, parents, if a teacher should send material home over break, it would be great if you could make sure your precious child is reviewing the material, so that it would remain fresh in their minds!

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Best Coffee for your Buck: Keurig Lattes (from home), Mum and Pop Coffee Shops or Starbucks?

I have been going to Starbucks since it became “A Thing” in the early 2000s. I know it started in 1971, but it didn’t become huge until then. I remember seeing people walk around toting their cup with a feeling of importance and caffeine-induced gratification. It created Starbuck Snobs, who felt better than the person holding their Mum & Pop, or Dunkin Donuts cups.

(Sorry New York, I know Dunkin is the “Starbucks of the North”)

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I remember sitting in my auditorium-style business class in undergrad, coffee in hand as we listened to our professor drone on. Back then, it was mostly coffee from a local spot next to the Uni, called The Java Cafe. (Whom offered free refills from the house coffee choices, which were delicious)

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As the years have gone by and the prices have gone up,  I began to question my consistent support of buying from mostly Starbucks. Surely, there had to be places where I could get a cup of coffee for less than $6.32. Then the self-reflection began….

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The solution to not continuously purchasing “high- priced” coffee:

  1. Make your own lattes – I started doing this within the past year or so and my drinks taste better than the coffee shops, thanks to Natural Bliss coming up with this delicious Coconut Milk Creamer that I love! I also add a dash of cinnamon and teaspoon of coconut oil to make it a “bullet proof” coffee.

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2.   Visit one of the Mom and Pop shops around town – The price may be cheaper and there may be a chance to try a different type of drink, especially during each change of seasons!

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3. Put yourself on a strict budget!

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Below is an article about budgeting and video sharing how to choose the best coffee for your money, I also included a link about “bullet proof” coffee since I had some inquiries about that.

Have a Stupendous Saturday! Coffee Cheers!

*Check out this article from Living Well Spending Less:

https://www.livingwellspendingless.com/2015/10/01/lwsz-the-ground-rules/

*Check out this video about Which Coffee is the best Value?

BulletProof Coffee article:

https://wellnessmama.com/5673/healthy-coffee/

Bulletproof Coffee Recipe

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Life is too precious to remain stuck in an unpleasant story, so go ahead and close that story book and began a new one. ~Kamina Fitzgerald
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The Hiatus on Double-Minded Island

Good day mate!

I am back from my hiatus on Double-Minded Island. Double-Minded Island, is an Island shaped like a hand and is a place people end up who are in the valley of decisions.

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On the island, as I was reflecting about life and where I wanted to go from this point, a memory of a time come to mind. It was 11 years ago and I had been applying to different alternative teaching programs around the U.S. and internationally. It was a very confusing time. I had been praying for clarification because every opportunity that came appeared to be a good idea, but as we know, not everything that is “good” is of “God.”

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So one day, I was in an old building I used to rent for a business we owned. The new owners had made the building into a used book store that I frequented from time to time. As I stood in line to purchase a book, a man came behind me that looked like a character from a Canterbury Tales novel.

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As I was standing in line, taking my wallet out for payment, the gentleman behind me asked about a picture in my wallet of a family member. After providing some insight about that person, he went on to ask me had I been trying to make a decision lately about moving? I was surprised because I had been trying to decide on whether or not to move.

He told me to hold out my hand, he wanted to use it as an analogy. He held up my pointer finger and said, “This is your who, the middle finger is your what, the ring finger is your when, the pinky finger is your where and your thumb finger is your why.” He went on to say, “Never make a decision to do anything, unless the why makes sense. The why functions like your thumb and without it, you won’t grip very well, or hold on to anything for long.” He told me praying about it will help me make sound decisions.” Afterwards, I thanked him and he mentioned he had to go walk to the store up the road to get medicine for his wife. It was super cold outside that day, as it was circa October 2007, so I was surprised he was walking. After I paid, I went outside to make sure he was ok and there was no sign of him anywhere.

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I got into my car and sat there thinking at how much God must really care to send a man to tell me something like that when I really needed hear it. As I prayed and reflected on the positions I vacillated between; I thought about my hands, my fingers and my why. As I did this, things became much more clear. I began to ask myself, “Self why do I really want to go to these places?” I began to realize a lot of the why was not for me per say, but for the opinions of others.

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We end up on Double-Minded Island because of discontentment. Discontentment usually comes from comparing ourselves to others. It can start small, walking by someone and noticing their designer watch or bag. Trolling through Instagram, FB, or Twitter, and seeing smiling faces on vacations in nice restaurants, water skying and such. It could even come from chatting with a friend and hearing about a really great experience they’ve recently had. All of these happenings could lead to discontentment and unhappiness.

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I am so glad I had that memory after my hiatus to Double-Minded Island because it reminded me the importance of knowing my why behind each decision I make. If you are trying to decide between a decision, and end up on Double-Minded Island and remember:

Pointer Finger – Who

Middle Finger – What

Ring Finger – When

Pinky Finger – Where

Thumb Finger – WHY

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This will get you back on the Boat of Contentment, which is a much joyful and peaceful place.

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I leave you with these last word of encouragement.

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If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But he must ask in faith, without doubting, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. He is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.

 

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Two Sets of Joneses

Seventeen years ago….

I was in college on my way back with friends from performing. We were in the “singing assemble group” for our college that consisted of 6 girls and 12 guys. We went around singing to churches and organizations that donated money to our university.

Anyhoot, I was in the car and this music group came on the radio. I was immediately transported back in time to the 1960s, as the sound of a guitar blared and the lead singer’s voice droned on, it actually made me feel like I was at Wood Stock. *chuckle*

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Well, minus the “not so good” parts of Wood Stock. Sorry, I digressed from the main point.

As I listened to the words of the song, it really had a deep impact on me. After the song ended, I asked my friends the title of the song. They replied, “Two Sets of Joneses.” So I decided to share the story with you all but if you choose to skip it, I have attached the video below for your viewing pleasure.

STORY TIME

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The story begins with the two couples named, Rothchild and Evelyn Jones, and Reuben and Sue Jones.

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(Sorry, this was the best generalized image I could find of two couples, just use your imagination!)

Now, back to the story

Evelyn had a lot of money and Rothchild Jones was so excited because after he married her, she bought them a house on the beach.

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Reuben and Sue Jones did not have earthly wealth but they were followers of Jesus and felt that having Him was plenty because they trusted in Him to provide for them.

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The hook of the song described “hard times” as rain coming down and blowing the four walls down, and when the clouds rolled away; only one set of Joneses would be standing. So, essentially whenever hard times came, only one couple would be able to handle it.

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As time passed, eventually Evelyn Jones and Sue Jones were pregnant.

In Evelyn’s case, Rothchild worked late hours so that he could remain on top of the business, and her father was very proud and happy to have such a son-in-law. Rothchild worked so hard, that while Evelyn was having their first child, he was on an airplane flying to Dallas on business.

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In Sue’s case, when she was having their first child, the entire hospital heard Reuben exclaim, “It’s a boy!” He was right by her side and even stayed home with Sue to help her take care of the baby for a few days. While he was out of work, some of his co-workers took up a collection for Reuben and it ended up being enough for the bills that month.

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Needless to say, Evelyn Jones ended up leaving Rothchild and sued him for everything he had.

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The moral of the story: Is your life built on the Rock of Christ Jesus or Sandy foundations that YOU have managed to lay?

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Why is this important? Because when the rain comes down, and blows the four walls down, when the clouds roll away, will you be still standing or blown away?

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Just a thought. The video is below, enjoy 🙂

 

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Preparing for College, AP vs Dual Enrollment

AP Courses versus Dual Enrollment Courses: Decide for Yourself

I am in an Advanced Placement Workshop in Chapel Hill, NC and boy have I been enlightened. Being a proponent of Dual Enrollment for years, after this workshop, I have changed my mind. FYI: Dual enrollment students are students enrolled in high school while also taking a few community college courses at the same time. AP students are enrolled in advanced high school courses where they could earn a college credit by scoring 3 or higher on their exams.

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So I felt it was my duty to share with parents and students of Middle and High school the advantage of AP courses. I mentioned middle school so that they could start thinking ahead because the GPA from 8th grade could help qualify or disqualify students for an AP course in 9th grade.

AP Information

  1. Advance Placement courses provides greater educational outcomes for student. Did you know that when students apply to college, having AP courses listed on their transcripts makes them more competitive?
  2. Ap students who score 3 or higher on exams, are more likely than dual enrollment students to earn a college degree within four years, which could save students/families time and money in the long run. Did you know that when students have a choice between going to a community college to take a basic “core” classes or a high school AP core course, the AP course will provide more rigor? This is huge because AP courses was made to prepare students to think more critically, and complete challenging assignments.
  3. AP students have higher college GPAs than dual enrollment students.  Did you know that if an admission team is looking at a dual enrollment student versus an AP students’ transcript, the AP student will look more appealing because of the level of rigor in AP courses?

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What the critics say!

  1. Why should my child take an AP course when they can go ahead and take a core class at the community college and have it count as a college credit automatically? My answer: You should have your child take the AP course because it is more rigorous, it will look better to college admission teams, and statistically AP students will finish college on time due to being able to handle more challenging material.
  2. Wouldn’t a college be more likely to take a dual enrollment student over an AP student, since the dual enrollment student has already taken basic community college courses? My answer: No! There are a lot of admission teams (who wouldn’t admit it in public 😉 and research that shows that most dual enrollment students still has to be remediated once they enter college where as, AP students do not. (This even includes the ones who score under 3 on their exams) because of their rigorous curriculum.

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AP Student Takeaways

  1. AP Students who score a 3 or higher on the exam will get to count that credit as a college credit.
  2. AP Students who score under a 3 on the exam will get to have it on their transcript which will still help with college admissions.
  3. AP students have a higher success rate to complete college on time.
  4. AP students are more likely to out-perform dual enrollment students their first year in college.

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AP Exam and Curriculum Takeaways

  1. Courses and exams are developed by representatives from colleges and universities across the nation and align with standards set by well respected liberal arts and research institutions.
  2. AP teachers’ syllabi go a review by college faculty ensuring consistency in quality and expectations across AP courses.
  3. AP exams provides a standard means of comparison between AP courses nationwide.
  4. AP exams provide external validation of teaching and learning in the classroom. The exams are scores by college professors and expert teachers, not the students’ personal teacher.

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AP vs Dual Enrollment Programs

Dual enrollment programs do not have any external measures, such as a standardized assessment to measure and ensure consistency in quality. It is for this reason it is difficult for admission officers and college faculty to gauge the quality of any given dual enrollment course. http://www.ncappartnership.org/ap-research.html

Access to challenging work is essential for college and career readiness. So parents and students, consider AP classes, you will not regret it, it will only benefit you!

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It is the belief that students should challenge themselves and take courses for which they are academically prepared and motivated. ~College Board

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Identify the Emotional Vampires in your Life

When you hear the word “vampire” the images that may come to mind is Barnabas Collins from “Dark Shadows”

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or Edward Cullen from “Twilight”.

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But I have come to inform you that vampires are quite real, maybe not in the sense of these characters, but when it comes to certain individuals we have in our lives, they could very well be Emotional Vampires and if they are, you need to run the other way, fast!

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Now in order to run from the Emotional Vampires, you will need to be able to recognize them. So I will list six ways to identify these horrible creatures.

  1. Emotionally Draining – The first thing you will noticed about this type of individual is how emotionally and physically drained you feel after being in their company. I am not talking about the occasional time when a particular family member or friend share their issues with you and you feel slightly tired after listening to them. I am talking about the individual who does it the emotional vampire way. Instead of sharing a small problem, they bombard you a plethora of  them while sucking you dry of advice and emotional responses ALL THE TIME, barely stopping to allow you a word in edge-wise. You may ask, “What is wrong with doing this? Plenty of people do this, even I do this!”  But that is not what I am referring to. I am talking about feeling like your head is literally spinning after you finish a conversation with them. #abnormalfeeling

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2. Negativity Overload – After the conversation is long over with the emotional vampire in your life, you still experience this nagging negativity hangover. It is like taking a Benadryl too late before bed and waking up feeling the groggy brain-fog, after-affect.

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You probably did not realize until now, but that cloud of negativity was not coming from you; it actually came from the words of that emotional vampire you have been surrounding yourself with.

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3. You feel better when they are not around – Picture yourself listening to the individual; while listening to them you feel bad, after listening to them you still feel gloomy. It isn’t until you have gone a few days, weeks or months, without talking/listening to this individual that you start to feel somewhat normal again. This is because while conversing with them, they not only unload a lot of negativity on you; they also tend to not actively listen to anything you have to say, hardly ever. So going on a detox from this individual may show you just how good life could be without them. So go ahead and press the “Reset” button, for lighter and happier times ahead. #letitgo

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4. Simplicity goes out the Window – Another sign of an emotional vampire is when having, what you believe to be, a simple conversation with them, ends up leaving you in a ball of confusion.

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What starts out as a simple statement, ends with the emotional vampire taking things completely out of context; leaving you disoriented and wondering what in the sam hill went wrong. Communication gaps happen, yes, but in the case of the emotional vampire, they are inevitable because the vampire is usually busy being negative, playing mind games, refusing to give straight answers or being overly defensive of their “uncalled for” behavior. This is definitely a trait that you should be on the look out for because simplicity is certainly a thing of the past with them. #byebyesimplicity

5. They make you feel deflated – These emotional vampires tend to deflate everyone around them. They cannot stand to see anyone thriving in anything because they are debbie-downers, and want to make others feel that way too. #downerslovecompany

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A true friend would like for you to be happy and celebrate with you when things are good, and comfort you when things are bad. An emotional vampire does the complete opposite covertly, they do not bring comfort; nor do they celebrate you. They only do it if it serves themselves in some form or fashion. Most of the time they appear to only “tolerate” you being in their lives. They are really not into you or what you have going on but keep you around for their own purposes. So ask yourself again, why do you entertain such a person? Inquiring minds would like to know.

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6. You have a sneaky suspicion the friendship isn’t quite real – With emotional vampires, they only put up with you because a) they need a sounding-board b) they need someone to put down so that they can feel better about themselves c) they need emotional responses to what they are saying [in these cases they will have multiple people they run to for this because your response alone will not be enough] d) they need your energy to empower themselves.

Notice how all of these reasons are about them and not the friendship? This is normally the case with these creatures, I mean, emotional vampires. Once they get the energy and attention they crave, you will be out of sight and out of their narrow minds, until they need another energy fix again.

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What to do if you have been bitten by an emotional vampire:

  1. Establish the no contact rule, this is important because they are sly creatures and can usually lure you back into the friendship before you have time to think about it. Cutting ties will allow you to get back to emotional freedom sooner than later.
  2. Do not try to reason with emotional vampires, it will not work. You will just become tangled up again in their web of deceit.
  3. If you work with the person in a common organization, separate yourself and only deal with them professionally. Do not meet up for dinner, or talk on the phone. Keep everything strictly work related, and AT WORK ONLY.
  4. Develop a support system of people who care about you, and who are willing to talk and actively listen. This marks a healthy relationship.

Well Wishes!

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