Let go of the "Past" Bomb

Letting go of the “Past” Bomb

I was reflecting on a book I read over 17 years ago about getting people, past events and regrets out and making room for the right things instead.

How often are people living a low quality of life because they choose to live in the past by allowing something or someone the permission to have a “seat” in their lives, who should have been asked to “please get up and leave,” a long time ago?

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The good news is, that there is a thing called choice, and we all have access to it.

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We can choose to continue providing a seat for past regrets, situations, humiliations, and toxic people; or we could choose to asked them to “please get up and leave,” so that we can make room for the present and the future. Think about the Charles Dickens’s Christmas Carol. Ebenezer Scrooge was allowed the luxury of learning exactly how his past would affect his present, and doom his future. What a wonderful opportunity it would be if we too, could have the same ability. Unfortunately, we will more than likely not get to but we are wise enough to know that if we hold on to, provide a seat for, wrong things; our present and future will be very bleak.

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Can you tell I have an infinity for Charles Dickens? lol I did get to meet his great, great grandson once at a Dickens’s Holiday event, it was lovely. 

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I want to preface this by saying I am not only referring to people. I am also referring to habits, occupations and organizations we belong to. Some of us are still working in positions that we should have left a long time ago, but because of job security, decided not to step out on faith.

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Some of us have habits that are unhealthy, unproductive and/or expensive, that we need to give up so that we can make room for something better. Some of us are apart of organizations (civic, volunteer, congregations, frat/soro, etc…) that have run their course in our lives, but because of a sense of cause, duty, or validation, continue on in them. This is not to say, do not belong to any organizations, it is to make sure you are apart of the right organization; one in which you are a proper fit.

We have to be willing to let go of the wrong placement, in order to make room for where we are supposed to be. Otherwise, you will look like the illustration below.

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From this day forth, view the bad parts of your past; and all that encompass as a ticking time bomb that will soon explode, and end up destroying your present and future. This may seem a bit melodramatic, but what else will it take to finally decide on letting go? Some of us are collectors of useless things, and eventually, if we continue to take care of those “useless unproductive things,” our energy, time and most importantly space will be unavailable when something better is introduced and what happens when you are looking for a seat, and all are taken? You keep moving. This is what good things that are supposed to be in our lives will do if we stay full of rubbish, it will keep moving.

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Reflection

Get a notebook, iPad, or Notepad on your phone. Write down these categories:

  1. People
  2. Organizations I belong to
  3. Habits
  4. Hobbies

Underneath each category, write down The Three P’s:

  1. Productive
  2. Positivity
  3. Passionate

At this point, I would personally choose to pray about this, but overall the objective is to evaluate the categories and see if the items in them should continue having a seat in your life. If you find you are no longer passionate, productive and it no longer brings positivity into your life; then I suggest asking it to “please get up and leave.”

After doing this exercise you will free up time, energy and space for something better to come into your life and you will appreciate it, when “something better” comes along.

You may actually be the person holding yourself up, you may be your worst enemy, so don’t be afraid to “Let go of the Past Bomb.”

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Rejection = Re-direction

Rejection = Re-direction

I saw this quote and thought I would share it because of its’ profoundness.

“As I look back over my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually re-directed to something better.” 

So many times, we reflect on our lives and feel a deep sense of regret.

  • Regret of poor choices that were made
  • Regret of choosing not to do something
  • Regret of not standing up for something
  • Regret of trying to be a people pleaser
  • Regret of taking life too seriously and not taking the time to stop and smell the roses
  • Regret of not preparing children for life
  • Regret of getting involved with the wrong people
  • Regret of choosing the practical job over the one you REALLy wanted
  • Regret of not getting up and speaking at an event
  • Regret of being rejected from something you really wanted to do

This last regret is what I really wanted to touch on. Do not feel so bad about being rejected from a person, job position, club, or organization; because the rejection is simply re-directing you to the area you are supposed to be in.

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*Encourage yourself with these wise words*

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*Here is a video of a comic book about the origins of negative thoughts and how to take control of them. I was happy to see this because I STiLL have my copy of this comic book from when I was younger.*

 

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21-day Genuine Challenge Results

Good night everyone, this will be short and to the point. The 21-day Genuine Challenge was more difficult than I anticipated, especially when people were a bit cheeky.

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I have found that it takes making a “conscious decision” to be kind and genuine, it does not happen organically.

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It is easy to make sarcastic, negative remarks behind someones’ back, it is also easy to smile in someones’ face while having a frown in your heart towards the person, but it is hard to be REAL.

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When I make the statement to “be genuine” I am also saying to stop being the opposite: a fraud, counterfeit, sham, imitation, hoax, when dealing with yourself and others. This is good advice for all of us.

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  1. If you are not feeling well, it is ok to say that when asked how you are doing.
  2. If you do not like being around a certain group and/or person, it is ok; politely stop being around them and don’t talk negatively about them. Sometimes friendships fade.
  3. If you no longer like the direction your life is going, don’t act like you do just to impress others, or because you think something is expected of you; instead, make the necessary changes you need in order to have a healthy well-being.
  4. If you are around a group of people who are always talking negatively about others behind their backs, but smiling in their faces, separate yourself! This is a quick way to be classified as not being genuine.
  5. If you feel lead to do or say something you know is wrong, decide not to so that you could avoid negative consequences.

I challenge everyone to try the 21-day Genuine Challenge, it will definitely make you think before you do.

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The 21-day Gen·u·ine Challenge

I would like to challenge everyone to the “21-day Genuine Challenge”. This challenge is for everyone, no matter their stage of life: retired, stay at home mum or dad, working not working, or students. Let me preface this by saying that we are human beings and make mistakes, so this challenge is not about being perfect but becoming better.

Ok class let’s begin with the definition of genuine. The definition below is from Dictionary.com.

gen·u·ine

ˈjenyo͞oən/

adjective

  1. truly what something is said to be; authentic.

“each book is bound in genuine leather”

Synonyms: authentic, real, actual, original, bona fide, true, veritable; sincere, honest, truthful, straightforward, direct, frank, candid, open; artless, natural, unaffected;

Informal synonyms: straight, upfront, on the level, on the up and up

  1. “a genuine person” (of a person, emotion, or action) sincere.

“she had no doubts as to whether Tom was genuine”

Now that we know the meaning behind the word genuine, we can discuss “The Why”.

Why should we strive to be genuine?

The reason I am challenging everyone to be genuine for 21-days is because I believe a major transformation will take place in their lives upon completion. Imagine an environment when people truly said what they meant and meant what they said, or a place where a person could walk away from a group feeling confident that nothing negative would be said shortly afterwards. Wouldn’t that be positively, lovely?

Change begins with us, hence the 21-day Genuine Challenge.

Below I am going to provide examples of 6 true genuine traits along with examples of the opposite of genuine traits (also known as being fake). This will serve as a resource during the challenge. I shall report my own findings in 21 days! (August 31st) #begenuine

Respect Everyone, whether it is Earned or not

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Showing respect to everyone is a sign of integrity. The Bible even mentions how pretentious it is to show favoritism to the wealthy by giving them the best seats in the synagogue while not paying any attention to the poor. (James 2:3) This applies even today, show everyone respect whether they deserve it or not, no matter their station in life and only good can come from it.

Practice Humility

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There is a time and place for everything.

To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under Heaven (here on Earth) Ecclesiastes 3:1

Do not misunderstand this example, it is ok to be loud and have fun at times, but it is not ok to always seek attention at the expense of taking away attention from others. We all can think of an example of this trait and during our challenge, lets strive to do the opposite.

Be Transparent and Tactfully Honest

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The definition of gossip. I have done this with prior students before because some of them admittedly never looked it up. So, it was high time. Gossip is discussing other peoples’ affairs and the affairs are not confirmed as true or false. It is for this reason one should speak to the source, not about the source to other people, when they are unsure about something. Be open and transparent, because a good person may be misjudged for life over unconfirmedinformation.

Real Life Example Alert – Once upon a time, I had people tell me a certain individual had been discussing me unfavorably. I was surprised because I barely knew the person, so clearly, they had been fed some untrue information about myself for them to be discussing me in such a fashion. I tried to ignore what had been said to me and continued being polite to the person as I had always done, but after being told by several more people the person was speaking about me negatively, I went and asked the person about it. It caught the person by complete surprise and they denied it. I asked them if I had done anything to offend them because if I had; I wanted to make it right, they replied that I had not done anything to them. After the brief exchange, I assured them there were not any hard feelings on my end and continued to treat them as I always had. Shortly afterwards, I overheard the person speaking negatively about me with my own ears and what others had been saying was confirmed. I still remained pleasant but guarded, it just goes to show that you cannot please everyone, and that people can and will speak badly without a cause.

Cannot Please Everyone but keep being Pleasant

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It is natural for us to want everyone to like us, but it is not realistic. It is a thin line between being niceand becoming a people pleaser. I am naturally a nice person but can usually discern fairly quickly if someone does-not-care for my person. In those cases, I am polite and professional but aim to keep things short and sweet because it is best to be celebrated instead of tolerated. #politeprofessionalshortsweet

Compliment Others

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Criticizing others to divert attention from your weaknesses is not a good trait. I am not talking about constructive criticism because I am a former dancer, cheerleader and show choir member, so I know the benefits of receiving criticism that drives improvement but criticizing without a purpose or just to make someone feel badly is wicked. So, during the challenge if this is a problem area, try hard to stop it! It will get easier with time.

Keep your word and when you cannot, Communicate

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Life happens, and sometimes we are not able to make it to an event we have committed too; in that case, a genuine person would simply communicate that. This image is stating is that a genuine person would try to live up to their promises, while a fake person would mindlessly promise commitment in order to appear “important” knowing they have zero intentions of following through.

I have given the tools needed to proceed on the challenge, now go forth and be GENUINE so that transformation could start taking place in your personal environment and eventually, around the world.

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Reference

Dictionary.com. 2018. Definition of Genuine. Retrieved from https://www.dictionary.com/browse/genuine

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What is the Difference Between an Ed.D. and Ph.D.?

Good day or evening, depending on your time-zone. I just wanted to write a blog about Ed.D.’s and Ph.D.’s because I have had a few people, who do not have either degree, ask about the differences or whether one is better than the other.

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Let me preface this by saying,  six years ago I started an online Ph.D. in Business Administration but stopped after two classes because the online format was not conducive to learning for me at that time.

Three years ago I applied for two other doctoral programs: an Ed.D. (university was located in NC which is where I live) and D.Min. (university was located in VA). I was accepted to both but chose the Ed.D. because it seemed to fit my career and would allow me to teach at a university (which is what I would like to do after I retire from the K-12 system). I researched and saw that the D.Min. degree did not typically secure adjunct or full-time positions in higher education but was mostly for people working in full-time ministry. The person could teach within ministry but not in the university so that is what helped me decide between the two programs. *Instead of D.Min. I decided to do a Ministerial Training program through church, so that I still got a chance to increase learning in that area. 

After being in the Ed.D. program for a year, I was volunteering in a children’s entrepreneur program through a nonprofit and university School of Business Department. I was able to work with the Dean of the School of Business and some of other professors.

*My background as a teacher is that I taught high school business courses 8 out of my 10 years in education. I taught accounting, personal finance, computer applications, business management, career management, and technical math. My undergraduate and graduate degree is in business administration but I also have a masters in school administration with a principal’s license that I pursued once I decided to make Education my career choice. While conversing with the Dean, she told me if I planned to teach in a School of Business at the university level, I should consider switching from the Ed.D. program to a Ph.D. in Business. I told her that I thought I could still teach in the School of Business since I had a masters in business administration. She told me that I could, but would have a better chance of a full-time position if I had a Ph.D. in Business.

I went on a quest, looking up Schools of Business state and nation wide just to get a marginal figure of how many of the professors had Ed.D.’s or Ph.D.’s. While there were quite a few with Ph.D.’s there were also some Ed.D.’s. The interesting thing I noted was that Ed.D.’s were in other departments as well as long as they had a masters in the subject they were teaching. For example, a person with a masters in science and business with an Ed.D. could also teach in the School of Science or School of Business.

A person with their Ph.D. would normally be located in a department based their subject matter expertise in their Ph.D.. For example, if a person has a masters in business and science with a Ph.D. in nutrition, they would normally be located in the Nutrition Department. There is not anything wrong with this because I think if there is a passion for a certain subject area and you would like to research it and/or teach it, pursue a Ph.D. in that particular area!

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I digressed again.

So, listening to this particular Dean of a the School of Business, I decided to apply to UNC Greensboro’s School of Business because they had a really interesting program called “Consumer, Apparel and Retail Studies” . The curriculum was fascinating and the amount of research their faculty had conducted was phenomenal so I was excited to apply. Long story short, I applied and got accepted.

I was at a crossroad. One year and foot into my Ed.D. program and other foot in a Ph.D. program. What was a girl to do? I had to make a decision and had three months to do it.

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I did some soul-searching, and prayed for clarification. I decided to write down some goals.

#1 Professional goal was to reach the School Superintendent level

#2 Professional goal is to become an adjunct and/or full time professor.

If you research Ed.D. degrees, they were made for K-12 level. It teaches the candidate the ins and out of a school system, and how to bring it together with the community it serves.  A school district is not an organization but a living organism that consist of a lot of different functions that depend on one another. It is a challenging but rewarding career and is the kind of work that never gets boring.

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So I asked myself this question: if I were to receive my Ph.D. from the School of Business, would I remain in the K-12 school system or would I resign and pursue something in that field? After looking in the Occupational Outlook Handbook (shout out to my former business students) I saw that the job availability in Business was slower than average and that it would be a challenge due to lack of positions so more than likely I would have chosen to stay in education even if I were to pursue the Ph.D. in Business.

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When I looked up the job availability for principal and/or school superintendent positions, it listed faster than average because of the amount of people who would be retiring.

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So remaining in the Ed.D. program was beginning too look more appealing. I also sought the advice from my mentor (a retired Assistant School Superintendent/Current full-time professor) and he mentioned that if I was going to remain in K-12, the Ed.D. was a better fit with the added perk that after I retire; I could still pursue an adjunct and/or full time professorship in the School of Education or School of Business. Although after this long journey I have been leaning more towards the School of Education. *smirk*

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In conclusion, I personally do not think one degree is better than the other because it honestly depends on what your future plans are. It is pure ignorance to make a blanket statement that one degree program is better than the other, just “because it is” without knowing the person’s career aspirations. I feel I can say this because I have been accepted into and have experienced both the Ed.D. and Ph.D. programs. (Was accepted to an online Ph.D., and an in-person Ed.D. and Ph.D. program. For some, this distinction matters)

I made a decision based on my research interest, current and future career goals. All of which were according to personal preference.

At the end of the day, Ed.D.’s and Ph.D’s will be both be called, “Doctor So-And-So”.

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If you have any questions about Ed.D. or Ph.D. programs or need advice on any other graduate programs, leave a comment or email me on the contact page and I would be happy to get back to you.

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Resources for further reading:

https://www.educationdegree.com/articles/edd-and-phd-differences

https://www.insidehighered.com/blogs/gradhacker/phd-vs-edd

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doctor_of_Education

https://www.education.pitt.edu/FutureStudents/FrequentlyAskedQuestionsFAQ/PhDorEdD.aspx

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Mission Barbecue: What in the Sam Hill is in their Dangerously Delicious Collard Greens?!

Have you ever had an item off of a menu that smelled and tasted so good that it left you wondering what was in it afterwards? Well, that has been my experience at a restaurant named Mission Barbecue.

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Mission Barbecue now has me on a “mission” to find and share what makes their Collard Greens taste so good. Would you believe I have ever looked them up before, this is positively shocking because all who know me, knows that I wear the title:

“The Duchess of Research”

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So join me, as I go on a mission to search out some of the menu items. I am almost afraid to look.

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But not THAT afraid, so continue reading.

Disclaimer: I will only look up some basic menu items, not necessarily items I eat, but items my family and friends have sworn by. If you do not have time to read the content below, I will save you save time upfront.

After viewing their nutritional facts, I can safely conclude their menu items are full of calories, fat, and sodium. This may be partly the reason behind everything tasting so good. After reading their their nutritional website, my countenance have fallen, I may have to lay off of their collard greens indefinitely.

Exhibit A – Collard Greens (FOUND THE CULPRIT! MSG) Their ribs, meat loaf and mac & cheese contain MSG as well.

Calories per serving: 189

Cholesterol: 6

Sodium: 980

Fat: 3

Saturated Fat (This stuff clogs the arteries): 2

Protein: 3

*Keep in mind men only need 56 grams per day and women 46 grams per day*

Fiber: 0

Sugar: 2

*They admit their MSG usage here: https://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:dGazi3a-fQAJ:https://mission-bbq.com/allergy+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=safari

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Exhibit B – Green Beans & Bacon (Whhhhy the bacooooon?)

Calories per serving: 170

Cholesterol: 19

Sodium: 1016

Fat: 7

Saturated Fat (This stuff clogs the arteries): 2

Protein: 8

*Keep in mind men only need 56 grams per day and women 46 grams per day*

Fiber: 

Sugar: 4

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Exhibit C – Cornbread 

Calories per serving: 205

Cholesterol: 49

Sodium: 228

Fat: 9

Saturated Fat (This stuff clogs the arteries): 5

Protein: 4

*Keep in mind men only need 56 grams per day and women 46 grams per day*

Fiber: .82

Sugar: 11

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Exhibit D – Mac & Cheese (FOUND THE CULPRIT of the Great Taste! MSG

Calories per serving: 304

Cholesterol: 50

Sodium: 998

Fat: 20

Saturated fat (This stuff clogs the arteries): 11

Protein: 15

*Keep in mind men only need 56 grams per day and women 46 grams per day*

Fiber: 1

Sugar: 4

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Exhibit E – Brisket (Lean portion)

Calories per serving: 480

Cholesterol: 203

Sodium: 1173

Fat: 18

Saturated Fat (This stuff clogs arteries): 7

Protein: 73

*Keep in mind men only need 56 grams per day and women 46 grams per day*

Fiber: .74

Sugar: .06

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Exhibit F – Brisket (Moist portion)

Calories per serving: 595

Cholesterol: 156

Sodium: 1213

Fat: 46

Saturated Fat (This stuff clogs the arteries): 19

Protein: 39

*Keep in mind men only need 56 grams per day and women 46 grams per day*

Fiber: .74

Sugar: .06

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Exhibit GPulled Chicken

Calories per serving: 443

Cholesterol: 295

Sodium: 1290

Fat: 24

Saturated Fat (This stuff clogs the arteries): 6

Protein: 51

*Keep in mind men only need 56 grams per day and women 46 grams per day*

Fiber: .77

Sugar: .2

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*Exhibit H – Yard Bird (Worst OFFENDER)

Calories per serving: 1158

Cholesterol: 369

Sodium: 2415

Fat: 70

Saturated Fat (This stuff clogs the arteries): 19

Protein: 116

*Keep in mind men only need 56 grams per day and women 46 grams per day*

Fiber: 1

Sugar: 5

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Exhibit I – Smoked Salmon

Calories per serving: 373

Cholesterol: 140

Sodium: 310

Fat: 20

Saturated Fat (This stuff clogs the arteries): 6

Protein: 45

*Keep in mind men only need 56 grams per day and women 46 grams per day*

Fiber: 0

Sugar: 0

If you want to learn more about their menu items, go to this link: https://mission-bbq.com/sites/default/files/Mission_NutritionInfo_v19_0.pdf

So the moral of the story is below:

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Career Destination: How did you know?

Happy Friday Everyone!

Today I wanted to talk about careers because one of my former high school students accepted a teaching position two weeks ago and before he did, he asked me how did I know I wanted to be a teacher. Instead of answering the question straight away, I gave him a story instead.

*So sit back and relax kiddies, it’s story time*

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My summer before entering undergrad was filled with private cheer and tumbling classes in order to prepare for my first college cheer camp and practices, which were intense. It was safe to say, declaring a major was NOT in the forefront of my mind. Honestly, if you’d asked me what I wanted to be at that time, I would have said either a Dance Studio Owner or an Archeologist, yet I attended an Undergraduate Institution noted for their PGM Golf Program. (The following photo is actually me, I guess my college rubbed off on me a little, lol.)

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So when I met with my freshman Advisor and told her I wanted to be an Archeologist, she sweetly informed me that there were no such majors at the college, but could try “Geology” instead. After taking my first class on rocks, I considered changing to Education. Only one other girl on my cheer team was an Education Major and she was always teased that teachers did not make any money. (Newsflash: she was from Jersey, where teachers made a lot of money because they had a Union) either way, peer pressure got to me and I decided to switch my major to Psychology instead.

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As I sat in Dr. Campbell’s psych class, and listened to him drone on and on about the history of Psychology, I decided to schedule another meeting with my Advisor. The poor woman was always so kind but I bet she was getting tired of me. I told her that I wanted to be a Psychologist, but the class was not interesting to me. She nicely informed me that I would need at least a master’s degree in order to practice Psychology, so if the classes where not interesting, I may want to consider changing my major to something else.   One of my friends told me maybe I should consider Business Administration. (Are you all noticing how “my friends” were guiding my career decisions? eye roll) So I decided to switch to Business Administration, but I had to declare a minor, in which I decided on Health Care Administration. I was then placed with the Health Care Advisor and I clicked with him instantly. He told me how I had the option to Teach business at the middle and high school level if I should decide to get a teaching certificate, and could also work in hospitals and clinics. I did not get the teaching certificate but performed exceptionally well in Business and Health Care courses. Once I reached my senior year, completed my internships; one at hospital and another at a private imaging clinic, I felt this sinking feeling I had made a mistake.

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I digress by saying throughout undergrad, I always kept a part-time position even though I was a full-time student and on the cheer and dance team. I mostly worked with children in After School Programs/Childcare Centers. I even worked at Circuit City (rip…) during my last semester in school. When it was nearly time for me to graduate, and I had my first job offer in my major, a nagging question entered my mind, “How on earth did the Childcare Center and Circuit City pay more than what was offered to me by the Private Health Care Imaging Company?”

I was extremely insulted that I had spent four years plus an arm and a leg in school, only to be offered a part-time position, working from 7pm to 11pm, making less than I was already making!

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I didn’t even ENJOY working at the Private Health Care Imaging Company. Please don’t misunderstand me, I am not trying to sound like an entitled spoiled brat; I am making a point that I was sold a bill of goods in college, that choosing a certain major will PAY WELL instead of choosing what you truly wanted to do. Because I chose something I thought “paid well”, I ended up spending the following two years after undergrad in a MBA Program, working in group homes and childcare facilities. It was during the time I was working in a Childcare Center that my former cheerleading coach from high school saw me (her son was attending there). She told me the high school I graduated from was in dire need of a Business Teacher. She mentioned that four Teachers had quit during the first semester and they needed someone to start January. I was a little frighten to hear this, but she told me she thought I could do it. So she set up an interview with the Principal (who ironically happened to be her former high school cheer coach) and I was offered the position.

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Let me tell you, (as I sip my tea) the salary was way more than what any of the health care facilities were posting at that time, and was more than what I was making and on top of that; I would have the holidays off. This was huge because in childcare, there were hardly any days off. I was ecstatic!

I started teaching high school and coaching cheerleading and I must say, it felt really organic. I have always loved working with young people (in church, group homes, babysitting, and in childcare), so I had finally found my niche!

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Do you know, if I had stuck to majoring in Education during undergrad, I would have found a position right after graduation. This means I would have been able to start paying my students loans and establishing myself. Because I did not do this, and was not able to find a steady job after graduation, I had to put my loans in deferment and for those of you who do not know, your loans capitalize during this time period. What this means is that because I did not have a steady position, my interest doubled and is the same as my principal and I am paying way more money now, in order to pay it off quicker.

ADViCE: do not listen to your peers, or to other people about certain positions not bringing in any money, it simply is not true. What sense did it make for me to be jobless and have to work odd jobs making less, all because I chose a major in which I thought would bring me more money, when in reality I would have been better off in the long run with the major presumed to bring in less? If I had majored in Education, I would have found a teaching position right out of college which is the norm compared to majors “rumored” to be more lucrative.

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In these cases, student loan companies do not care whether you find a position or not. They will defer your loan but at your expense. I will talk more about student loans in the future because I have experience in that area and would like to help others avoid the mistakes I have made. If you have questions about loans, feel free to comment or email me. I can be reached on the contact link.

In Conclusion – After getting my second Masters in School Administration and Ed.D. at Gardner-Webb University, located in the beautiful mountains of North Carolina; I was blessed with professors who retired as Instructional Leaders, Principals, Assistant Superintendents and Superintendents. They taught us that there is money in Education, but it was not about chasing money, it was about doing what you loved. Because when you chase money, it will run from you, but when you do what you love, money will follow.

Now back to what I was originally talking about, my former student asked me how did I know which career I wanted to do, and it seem that knew all along I wanted to work with children, especially based on my interest throughout time, unfortunately I took the “Career Scenic Route” to get to my Career Destination.

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How did you know which career you wanted to do? Feel free to leave a comment, I am sure we could all learn from one another.

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